make it right

Some females dont know you have to mold a guy into what you want him to be you have to work with him and his great qualities, not your own image of a man (lol those dont exist). If you dont like some of his qualities dont date him hes not for you. No one is perfect, and no one is a mind reader. you have to know how to talk to a guy and lay out your expectations without scaring the shit out of him. Thats what we do scare the shit out of them. Its a rough road and a process. Sometimes guys cant handle too much at once so take your time in molding your princess I mean prince into someone you both can enjoy! and Make Him Out

You should be dating him because of his interests and because you like the person that he is. If you're dating someone based on their looks or their style you will not get far. If you can find someone to compromise with then you can find the right person immediately

Let's Talk about Pep

Yes lets please

I'm not going to lie I had nothing nice to say about Pep when seeing the previews of this show.

After watching a couple of episodes of Salt n' Peppa I deemed to believe that Peppa was nothing more then a mess. I realized seeing her with Salt made her seem more dominant then she was.

Then I heard her thoughts and comments on what good hair was, she basically thinks that good hair is the opposite of what it really is. I wish I could find the video and interview but thats not my point. I completely judged everything about her and where she came from I wish I didn't because I missed the first episode because of that.

I am in love with this show everyone is talking about it Clutch, Examiner, and A message from Montie have some interesting takes.

Although I do have my major issues with Jacque asking guys on their first date about marriage and kids I still love the fact that I'm not rolling my eyes throughout the show. You know how it is, it seems like we're forced to watch a particular show because it is one of the few shows that have people in it that look like me. The lack of black shows resulted me into settling for hot mess, now I don't want to call out any shows but you know what shows I'm talking about the ones that have you shaking your head in shame.

Shows like Every Loves Chris and The Game make me so proud to be black not only are they written well but they show the truth not just the negatives and lets not forget how good they are.

Which is what this show that appears on drama filled VH1 does I don't have to cringe when my mother walks in while I'm watching it. Not only can I enjoy it but I can nod in agreement of all the good wholesomeness on my tv.

I'm not forced to sit through a cat fight to get to the good part because its a honest outlook on black women and that is something I can deal with and love.

A love Affair with substance: a story about procrastination

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That's when it came to me my hands were having an affair behind my back.

It made so much sense . The only thing that was literally involved with the computer

were my hands. I used my eyes to see but no real substance was coming through

I was so disappointed

I finally realized what I was missing, my hands.

I fell into a depression

Nothing can feel a void more then a body part can

The most painful part was my hands knew exactly what was going on

They were very aware that they were holding me back

I control every inch of my body but we are a team at the end of the day

Someone had to take the blame for the procrastination thats been happening lately

Running off to do your own thing forgetting your priorities at home

what a selfish act

My day crumbled when I put more of the pieces together

I discovered what was keeping them away

read more on The room that has no walls

Who is you?

You get lip and cheek injections,you suddenly want to twist your hair and buy multiple style products for that ‘volume’, although we don’t approve of some slang and style choices you constantly sag your pants and you refer to me as your ‘nigga’, you make multiple visits to the tanning salon to be you know what. You can’t resist my plump apple bottom or my face full of character so you mock,ridicule, and tease me about what you wish you were born with. Instead of giving credit you rape any and every idea that was not made by you, you take me out your movies (by default because I am the idiot that always wants to sacrifice myself) you portray me as the devil and constantly spread false attributes through the internet, television, and all international resources.You downgrade my culture with your cheap imitations and interpretation, you tell me to let it go and you tell me to move on yet you remind me how jealous and envious you are of me. You've been playing the name game and pointing fingers as if 4 haven't been pointing back at you. You throw my name under the bus, you go out of your way to ruin my some what broken up reputation, you throw wood to my fire I'm trying to put out, and you think you have nothing to do with it. You twist and turn then hop and bop to my music while replacing my voice with yours. Using my tunes, my beats, and my dance moves to enhance your non rhythmic commercials. You embarrass me and try your best to boss me around. Like a teacher with a strong hate for a student you won’t admit it but you wish you could be me in every shape and form. Let's be real now you will never be on my level so quit while your’re ahead!

What I'm talking about

Alice Smith

On repeat on my ipod, love it, give it a listen

For Lovers, Dreamers, &Me

Bang Bang Click

The mumbles, ohhs, ahhs, and applause made watching this frustrating but nonetheless it is truly amazing

Alexis Marie and Brook Yung- Gun and Bullet

A few of my Favorite things

When your day is not going well

theres always those few things that happen that really brighten up your spirit

Some things that genuinely make me happy

Waking up to the sun

Feeling like a new person

I can't go on with my day without opening my curtains

I love to feel like god is giving me a fresh start.

Waking up to the sun in my face is definitely the right side of the bed.

People watching

I know I'm not the only one who loves people watching

I especially enjoy it when I'm not being disturbed

For the next person who talks to me while I'm gazing into space and I give you an attitude

You interrupted my daily people watch which will never be the same after you stop talking

I love taking in everything from hair to body language

There is something so relaxing about staring at someone and taking in their whole being

while their going about their day

Receiving a compliment from a elderly

for some reason this validates your flyness

Due to the people and industry who raised this generation

if not all most elderly don't have respect for the youth.

The proof is there, if I'm being my polite self or trying to hold a conversation

If they are 55 and older they don't take anything that has to do with me serious

which sucks

But when someone of a certain age pitches you a compliment it feels good to know

that you are in fact not apart of this weird generation

Seeing a group of friends having fun

It always put a smile on my face to see a group of people

laughing, joking, and just having a good time together

Its nice to see civilized humans

Good music at a party

Whether you like parties or not

anyone especially me can appreciate a good dj

Even if I'm in a bad mood I can still appreciate the perfect flow

of oldies,newbies and reggae at a party

Block parties, street festivals, barbeque's

I mark my calender for BAM , a street festival in Brooklyn during labor day weekend (I think)

My day can't go wrong at any black party

I love the food, I love the family like atmosphere

and most importantly I love the vendors

I'm talking the $1.00 tables of toys and cheap make-up

the old lady selling all her clothes from when I wasn't born

the China men selling the same old paki scarfs, hats, and gloves

the food vendors

and the Health Care table

make up for the most memorable days in the summer

If it was up to me I'd host a block party every day

Two close females

Something all women need, that friend you feel most comfortable with

the most naked and the most loyal to

I love to see it in action

Its such a beautiful thing to see two females enjoying their friendship

and the secrets that wrap in all up with a bow

Two close males

This also makes me so happy to see

Especially when they are young

From what I learned from my peers, h.s, and tv it is very uncool

to be too close to another guy

Now I'm obviously referring to men and young boys who are immature and not secure with themselves

But when I see two guys who completely omit that

and don't apply that kind of ignorance

when their just having fun

I'm in awe

Seeing two guys hug is such a lovely thing to me

This is one of the only moments you'll see two guys really disregard their masculinity

Children playing and laughing

Kids of all ages

Such a pretty sight

and let me not forget listening to babies laugh

It makes me just want to kick them

Seeing the innocence of children without the burden of the world

on their shoulders is something to smile about

Perfect guacamole

I'm officially in love

I can eat in strait or with a fat burrito

But this definitely makes my soul warm

A long overdue conversation

With a friend, family member or a stranger

Its a burden to carry around a ' un-talked conversation in your heart

Especially with a stranger

that girl you don't know that you keep hearing rumors about

or that cute guy at the office that always seems to be talking about you

It almost seems like you lost weight after doing so much talking

with your friend you had a huge fight with that you haven't spoken to for months

or you and your mother finally having that talk about your communication skills

That one conversation can be your source of happiness for days

I remember smiling out of no where thinking about a long over due conversation I had with a friend

Its something to talk about

Even if its a conversation you don't want to have

those thoughts that float in your head can cause such a burden and give you a headache

getting them out will always feel better

A doctors visit

Knowing is power

after leaving the doctors

I feel like someone read my future to me

and I have a lifetime to prepare for what I already know

Yeah I feel just like that

Its amazing what knowing can do

A clean house/room

A neat freak at heart

I need to be surrounded by cleanliness

not only does it make me feel better

it gives me a chance to think clearly

When everything is cleaned you have time to think and worry

about more important things

Getting your moneys worth

Who can be mad at the right meal for the right price

or an expensive jacket that lasts you through 4 winters

If I don't love getting large portions of food

I love getting my moneys worth

makes me feel so accomplished

Since I love bargains and quality

I'm always looking to get around paying more then I have to

with that mentality I come across

you-get-what-you-pay-for-deals a lot

So when I do pay less and get more I feel like the luckiest girl alive

Gloves

Mittens,lace,leather.fingerless, long, short

I just love gloves

I will spend my last dime on a pair of gloves

I love watching my collection stack up

and I love seeing the various gloves in my wardrobe

I feel like mines is something to brag about

Secrets

I like a good secret

I like when people tell me secrets

and I like over hearing secrets

But only because I know I won't tell anyone

The Sims

If you really want to be friends with me

Buy me any Sims game

I appreciate this game more then real life

It truly makes me ridiculously happy

Its pretty sad

I can play this game for hours and in my sleep

It doesn't matter what mood I'm in

theres no appropriate time for the sims

School, work, and important things in life can wait

I'm playing the Sims

The real me

I wanted to show the world the real me, what I was really about

and I feel like I pulled it off perfectly

Can you see my blue mascara?

Its what I'm getting into now

I'm not sure where it started but I don't want to stop

I'm falling in love with blue mascara

It adds a nice touch to my outfits

You usually only see colored mascara used in photos shoots

But if you need something to add to a boring or plain outfit

this is perfect

Well for me it works perfectly especially since my plain is completely different from other peoples plain.

Its not something you throw on every day with anything

But if you coordinate right it can even out perfectly.

So get acquainted with blue, yellow, pink, or white mascara

You won't regret it.

Food For Thought

8 foods that are good for your hair!!

1. Mayonnaise

The oils leave strands smooth and frizz-free.

Simply slather the spread onto dry hair and leave it in

for 30 minutes before shampooing.

2. Honey

Got coarse hair? This helps soften and moisturize strands.

Mix 2 tablespoons of honey with 1/3 cup of olive oil and apply

to dry hair. Wash it out after 30 minutes.

3. Avocado

When combined with coconut milk, this fruit helps to seal

split ends. First, mix together one mashed avocado with

1 cup of coconut milk. Cover tips of hair with the paste and

let sit 15 minutes before washing as usual.

4. Apple cider vinegar

Just shampoo hair, then rinse it and pour on 1/4 cup of

this vinegar. The acids will strip hair of dulling product

buildup, so you’re left with glossy locks.

5. Eggs

You can deep-condition pelo with a combination of two eggs

and 4 tablespoons of olive oil. Work mixture through

strands, then leave in for 30 minutes. Rich in protein,

eggs help hydrate and repair damaged hair.

6. Cornstarch

Roots looking greasy? Rub some cornstarch into

them to absorb oils. ¡Problema resuelto!

7. Rosemary oil

So you had a Britney Spears moment and cut your hair off.

Try massaging some rosemary oil into your scalp;

it’s been said to stimulate circulation and promote hair growth.

8. Yogurt

If you’ve run out of conditioner, you can use plain,

full-fat yogurt instead. Soft, shiny results guaranteed!

pretty girls

Love this photo

Femi.

This is my new feature to my blog Isn't She Fly

I've been contemplating on who I wanted to "showcase" first

Then Femi left a comment on my page making me think of how I came across her blog

She was definitely one of the first bloggers that inspired me to create my own

I can't remember what brought me to her myspace for it must've been god

It could've been her funky hair cut in her default that attracted me at first

This was awhile back maybe January 2009

from her myspace I traveled to her blog where I was truly amazed

This was also around the time when I was moving which caused me to loose most of my pens

and throw away most of my paper

I stopped writing for such a long time

where I didn't have much inspiration

I lost the drive, based on change of location I pretty much forgot about writing

I was focused on so many other things I could care less about writing anything down

But when I discovered Femi's blog I was in awe

with everything she had to say, I fell in love with her words and anything that had to do with her thoughts

I've grown to really respect her and what she's about

A traveler by heart Femi resides in London but can be found on the streets of New York

and many other cities. Be on the look out she will be in a town near you.

I think it's safe to say that my love grew when I seen this picture of her

I too am a victim of Jamba Juice's juicy goodness

But you too can fall in love with her words and her way of life check out her blog here and her published work here

If you really want to get a taste of her check out her new blog of short stories

it is my all time favorite thisdidnthappen

Isn't she fly!

unsure

I don't need another opinion to know I hate the shoes

for runway there only ok

But as far as wearing them on the street, they are the most hideous things I ever laid my eyes on

I don't understand how could you walk out the house with those on

I would love to see this outfit with a different pair of shoes

Since she has so many things going on it seems like a bit too much

For Kelis it doesn't seem to be a lot

I can see this worn to a party on someone else:}}

The hair shouldn't be shocking I see hair that long everyday

I personally hate the horse tail on Kelis and everyone else

But over all it does work

except those shoes...please change those shoes!

I know for a fact I love whats going on her face

I've been seriously thinking about getting a nose ring

if I wanted to make it official this assemble would be why.

I must admit I was very unsure about this look first glance but I instantly loved what she had on her face

I think it looks so hot

from the over exaggerated eyelashes to the nose ring/earrings I love it all.

Everything shes wearing can she worn by anyone else, separately

I won't say since she's Kelis she looks good

because she does

I just won't say it

Fear

This photo is so ridiculous

Photo credit

I didn't realize I was a huge fan of his until I went to his site

I also featured more of his work here in a previous post

memories?

Is it me or does it seem wrong to take pictures of people while their suffering and in pain. What exactly is suppose to come from those photos. When I see photos from slavery I’m extra confused, its unknown if the photographers are slave owners or just bystanders. But why exactly is it a good idea to record that I guess for proof I don’t know, it doesn’t make sense. Hearing it isn’t enough we need to take 1,000 pictures and run it through every channel on tv and circulate them through the internet. I know about memories I’m no photographer but I’m the loser at the dinner table taking pictures. I take pictures of EVERYTHING and EVERYONE, all the people in school I hated and loved I have photos of all the them, my bullies. I don’t delete I keep all the bad, blurry, and disgusting photos. If someone pulls out of photo of me from 5th grade in my nappy ass pink tails and thick eyebrows I will laugh it up and enjoy it. I just don’t know how excited I’ll be if someone pulls out a photo of me covered in ash and dirt, crying, bleeding, with no shoes on. I think I would be pretty embarrassed.

I'm always thinking in other terms. It seems like a control thing to me. Take as many photos, jam cameras into the faces of half alive people without permission and on the worst day of their life. While doing so feed,clothe, bathe, and care for them all in the same moment.

Let me put it like this in your head. Your house caught on fire you think of nothing but your family. It's 3:00am, no time to grab real clothes or any of your prized possessions. Since you like to clean comfortable you are only in your panties and bra, never mind that you go wake up your family to get them out of their. As you and your family finally make it out devastated all your things are inside, you have no home, nothing. Along with a firetruck, fox 5 new, and random paparazzi. Taking pictures from the side line, you have no control your're more worried about your family and now old home.

It seems so morally wrong to take photos of someone while their in the worst position.

in too deep

You can't front those earrings are super fly

Things I'm not Afraid of...

.....anymore

1.) Opening up a can of biscuits

True story I use to be terrified of opening biscuits the sudden pop would scare the shit out of me. Now I'm grown up and a brave solider when it comes to it.

2.) What someone would think about me

Whether it was through the internet or upon meeting someone for the first time. Somewhere in between I would shield how I expressed myself.

For example on my blog I would think twice about certain posts to write about, not because they were inappropriate but I thought too hard about what anyone would think about who I was.

glad thats over....

3.) The Internet and Blogging

To be honest I'm still a little scared of my computer. I hated the thought of anyone knowing where I lived or knowing what I wore that day. I'm still scared of the crazy folk hidden between the keyboard. I can go on forever on why it scared me to be connected to strangers but that's for another post.

Now I have fallen in love with what people express when their behind a computer screen or a phone its crazy what someone will reveal about themselves when no one (everyone) is looking.

twitter, chictopia, wordpress, facebook, tumblr

Is there a such thing as too much?

4.) Getting acquainted with acquaintances

I was the anti-social not so much butterfly. I wasn't scared of people I was scared of what people caused

and it seemed like all humans wanted to do was cause drama, be hateful, or angry

well that was just high school

then I realized its not where you are, how old you are, or what your're wearing

You are who you attract which makes a bunch of sense

although I distance myself and didn't attract anything

Now it is much easier for me I do the approaching

Whats the point in waiting for someone to say something to you if you really want to talk to them

I guess I'm a little less "shy"

(I was never shy I just hated drama)

5.) Trends

Okay how can I put this without going in the wrong direction and opening up another subject

Well it has to do with my growth and being even more confident in my style and style choices

definitely me loosening up more on certain topics

But I would ban so many things from my closet

it didnt matter how fly it was no matter how much I actually liked the trend

I would try my hardest to steer away from any trend that was current

If I seen more then 5 females with the same bag I wouldn't buy it

This was me being real big headed and a bit immature.

I didn't want to be judged for being a follower

then I realized how stupid that was

I now wear what I want to wear

6.) Make-up

I'm still a bit cautious because I'm still experimenting

but all in all I'm not scared like I use to be

it didnt seem right to add something to enhance my face

I knew so many females that went from Beyonce to Medusa over night

obviously because they were ugly anyway but more so because they rarely wore no make-up

I didn't want to get so use to make-up where I couldn't go outside without it out

I would hate to wake up one day and not recognize my face

But I'm taking baby steps and I'm still very much a beginner so I'm getting there.

Under the Sun

If I had my way I would do what I want and go where I want to go

But I don't have my way

wait is that the Staten Island ferry...

I would love to break down where I get my shoes and my clothes

but that's none of your business

I rather keep that anonymous

I never understood those proud posts of where you got your clothes and how much

I'll keep that to myself and anyone who was there

I feel like thats personal information

I guess if you truly care you can check out my Chictopia

lol check me out contradicting myself again

The best ideas

It has come to my attention that I have ran out of closet and draw space for my clothes.

I realize how serious this is considering that I rack up on clothes by the day

I just seen this cute and smart idea for storage space

Without a doubt I'm going ladder shopping on craigslist

Check out storageandglee for more great ideas

The way of fiction

Like most movies I watch I look at everything from a a writers point of view ,naturally I give credit to who ever wrote the script and screenplay although a whole team is needed to create such a phenomenal movie like this. All in all it had to be put on paper first before any major steps are taken. I was never a big fan of sci-fi or fiction. I hated the idea of something not being real where I can't really relate I can only imagine and dream. My sad excuse for why I never wrote anything fiction slowly but surely I'm feeling more inspired to write a great fiction novel

Street Possessionby Tony Lindsey

One of the first urban fiction books I got my hands on. One of those books that catch you off guard I wasn't expecting anything I got. I was comfortable with reading about black magic, witches, and supernatural because of the authenticity of the setting and characters. I was definitely convinced and into the book. The writer took steps and cautious turns before introducing anything fake it wasn't awkward the way things showed up just a bit misleading. I think that's what made it fun to read and kept me reading I was expecting something and got something that was much better I passed the book down to my sister and she totally agreed with me. A great writer can write anything and please all their readers.

A lot of times I write for my own pleasure while being hard on myself double any audience. I figure if I'M not into fiction why write about it but that was before I seen Avatar

I can probably write pages on why I love this movie, why I thought it was so amazing , and

why I'm probably going to step out of my character and buy the real DVD for $24.99 when it comes out.

But I'm not going to do that it's late

While watching the movie I would repeat this over and over

I quote

"Who the hell wrote this shit"

Yeah it was that good

From a writers point of view I was thinking of the headaches someone had to go through,

from brain storming the tiny details to the basic character traits.

I was so impressed with the well put together movie I also realized

I'm way too cocky to let a future fiction story of mine go uncredited while Avatar writers and

Tony Lindsey get all creative credit in my world. I need some...I need to give myself more credit for

what I can do. I know I can put together a banging ass fiction

After watching Avatar I'm ready.

It would be safe to say the movie isn't for everyone I'm sure many people enjoyed it

but I know there are some folks out there that I know for a fact didn't appreciate

what the movie was really about and what it had to offer. I wish there was a way to show how great a movie is besides the irrelevant stars that are put

beside them because a bunch of nobodies figure that's what its worth.

2 out of 5 or 8 out of 10 doesn't make me feel like that does the movie justice.

Its so much more then a movie

It's my inspiration that will hopefully turn into a pay check once I'm finished with my fiction

and that truly is what its about!

I would advise to see it 3D for when I walked out the theaters my eyes were burning

from pure happiness which says volumes and screams it was worth it.

Buttons

I brought this long vest from H&M the other week for a nice price

$3.00 +.35 cents + $5.00 + 1.65

I have it on in my banner. I didn't realize there were no buttons

What am I going to do with a sweater with no buttons. I couldn't close it if I wanted to

When I finished I also realized it was too plain for me so I'm probably gonna change the buttons and use a bright string color.